What Reaches You Was Never Meant To Miss You: Maybe This Book Was Meant To Reach You

What if the moment you thought ruined you was actually trying to reach you? Almost 24 years ago, Steve Lentini died — at least medically. After flatlining during a major medical crisis and spending more than one hundred days in the hospital, he returned with a very different understanding of Life, God, fear, surrender, gratitude, and what really matters. While waiting for the ambulance, someone asked how he was doing. His answer was not panic. It was not, “I don’t want to die.” His answer was: “I don’t know how my body is… and I am grateful.” That moment became one of the spiritual anchors of his life. In What Reaches You Was Never Meant to Miss You, Steve invites readers to look again at the experiences they have labeled as bad, late, unfair, painful, or unwanted. Through personal story, spiritual reflection, coaching wisdom, and practical insight, he explores the possibility that Life may not always be happening against us — it may be trying to awaken us. This is not a book about toxic positivity. It does not pretend pain is pleasant. It does not call loss easy. It does not offer cheap answers for suffering. Instead, it asks a deeper question: What if the first meaning your mind gives an experience is not the final truth of that experience? Steve introduces readers to the Acorn Brain™ — the small, protective, survival-based voice that labels Life too soon — and Dragon Mind™, the larger awareness that sees pattern, possibility, timing, growth, and emergence. Inside this book, you will explore: Nature as a teacher of transformation Chaos and conflict as possible gifts Why energy, thoughts, and emotions shape your experience How ideas and intuition reach us when the noise drops Why recurring life lessons may be part of a larger curriculum How small-minded thinking creates invisible prisons The difference between surrender and resignation What it means to participate consciously with Life How “Thy will be done” can become a daily practice of trust This book is for anyone who has ever wondered why something happened, why God seemed silent, why a door closed, why life felt delayed, or why certain patterns keep returning. Maybe the delay was not denial. Maybe the rejection was redirection. Maybe the loss created space. Maybe the chaos was an alarm clock. Maybe the thing you resisted was trying to wake you up. What Reaches You Was Never Meant to Miss You is a personal, honest, and deeply reflective invitation to stop arguing with reality, stop shrinking into survival, and begin seeing Life differently. Perhaps nothing important in your Life ever arrived late. Perhaps Life has been trying to reach you all along. And perhaps this book reached you because something in you was finally ready to be reached.

Helping people buy

“We could never buy from you.”

I heard that walking into a meeting at a major university.

Most people would try to recover.

I didn’t.

Three months later, we were awarded the contract.

Same company.
Same solution.
Same economics.

So what changed?

That’s the wrong question.

My new book just went live:
Helping People Buy

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You Missed God

In the fast-paced world we live in, we often forget the most profound truth: we are never truly alone. In every moment, whether joyous or painful, quiet or chaotic, the infinite presence of the Universe, God, or the “Now” is always with us. This connection is not something we must earn or seek outside ourselves—it is inherent, unbreakable, and ever-present.

On the way to our ritual visits to the buildings we built to honor God, we often miss that God is always with us. We focus more on earning God’s favor, practicing daily rituals, and avoiding “sin” than on living fully in the gift God has given us. What if sin is a myth perpetuated by those who manage the very houses we believe are holy?

I pose questions that I believe will help my readers question the small-minded beliefs that have been passed down for generations by small-minded teachers.

Wake Up

Jump Into Your Life

Breaking the Cycle of Upset

How to Break the Annual Family Holiday Upset Cycle

“Finally—a holiday guide that frees you from family drama.”
Breaking the Cycle of Upset – How to Break the Annual Family Holiday Upset Cycle
Every holiday, families gather with good intentions—yet the same old arguments, resentments, and emotional triggers often resurface. The cycle repeats year after year, leaving us drained instead of joyful.
What if this year could be different?
In Breaking the Cycle of Upset, Steve Lentini shares practical wisdom and proven strategies to help you step out of unconscious patterns and create new, healthier traditions. Drawing on decades of leadership, coaching, and personal experience, he shows you how to:

Recognize the hidden habits that fuel conflict
Disarm your “Acorn Brain™”—the part of you that clings to old upsets
Choose peace instead of reacting to provocation
Build new rituals that honor love, respect, and connection

This book isn’t about changing your family—it’s about transforming yourself. When you break the cycle, you become the example that shifts the entire dynamic.
It’s time to rewrite your holiday story—one of peace, presence, and genuine joy.

Your Brain is Brilliant

But It’s Not Always Your Friend

Your Brain: The Unreliable Narrator
“Your brain doesn’t want you to grow — it wants you to survive. But you were made for more than survival.”
— Steve Lentini

What if the voice in your head isn’t always on your side?

This book was born out of a lifetime of coaching, observation, and deep personal experience. I’ve worked with leaders, entrepreneurs, and seekers who, despite their intelligence and success, found themselves derailed by an old, outdated internal narrative. What I call The Acorn Brain™—the part of us stuck in past programming, fear, and false beliefs—often runs the show without our permission.

Your Brain is Brilliant – But It’s Not Always Your Friend is an invitation to question those patterns. It’s a practical and powerful guide to help you break free from the mental habits that no longer serve you. Whether you’re leading a business, a team, or just trying to lead yourself more consciously, the tools in this book will show you how to step beyond self-sabotage and into clarity, courage, and conscious choice.

Ernest Holmes once said, “The illusion is in the way we look at things. We have looked at poverty, degradation, and misery until they have assumed gigantic proportions. Now we must look at harmony, happiness, plenty, prosperity, peace, and right action until they appear.”

We miss what is in plain sight, which is that we live in a miracle, an Infinite Universe because we allow what we are unaware of to control us. The constant voice is continuously judging, deciding what is good or bad, and making others wrong so we can be right limits what is possible for our lives. Consider if your judgments hem you in.

In Plain Sight

We miss so much in life; our hubris and ego blind us. We are blind to the gifts that life provides. Nature shows us how to live, which is but one of the gifts in this miracle. I hope you will come to see with this book that life is feedback. That is the gift.

In this book, I cover the mistakes I made when I was blinded by ego, anger, inner rage, and all the moments I rejected. I will share stories of friends, clients, and others who learned to “see” and their lives changed forever. I will also share stories of people who missed what was in plain sight and how it impacted their lives.

Ernest Holmes once said, “The illusion is in the way we look at things. We have looked at poverty, degradation, and misery until they have assumed gigantic proportions. Now we must look at harmony, happiness, plenty, prosperity, peace, and right action until they appear.”

No BS Coaching

Wake Up from the BS You Tell Yourself

Many books start with, “Listen to me, and your life will change.” It’s BS.
Listen to yourself because your words are programming your brain. “Life sucks, and then you die.” Have you ever heard yourself say this?
There are two ways to discover that you have the power to create in your life. At least two that work in my experience.

Listen to how you describe your life when you talk to others and what you say to yourself all day.
Listen to how others describe their lives.

Does your life seem to be a mess?
Are you envious of what others achieve?

These are symptoms of how you have programmed your life.

Would you like to work at what you love, have fun, and make money?

Do you dream of things, and then a little voice in your head says, “Who you, not you, you imposter?” “Everything you touch turns to mess.”
All of us are flawed human beings. Why? You can look at the answer two ways.

It’s the misery of life, and I tell everyone about it.
It’s here for me to overcome, and I observe how it serves me.

You choose. That’s our power. We are always choosing. We can stay stuck and love the story, make sure to tell others or embrace life as a friend who always gives us the feedback we need to grow. The first is powerless, and the second is powerful.
When you accept that you have created the mess you’re living in, you can begin to create the life you desire consciously.
Thich Nhat Hanh once said, “People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
George Ivanovich Gurdjieff said, “Live a life of friction. Let yourself be disturbed as much as possible, but observe.”
Don’t take my word for it; prove this idea to yourself. Begin observing who and what disturbs you. Let go of your suffering and stop the BS stories.

How to Train Your Mind

Train Your Mind for Success

In this book, you will consider whether you are your reality’s source. If you decide this is for you, you will learn to become the “Master of Circumstance” and leave the “woe is me” story you tell yourself behind. You are the programmer of your mind, and the good news is you can train your mind. Following the steps here, you can reprogram your mind for success. If you are successful, which includes happiness and joy for whatever life brings, you can take that success to an unimaginable level. Many of my clients have! The author is a Dragon in Chinese Astrology.

What if?

Answers to the Most Inane Questions by A.I.

You can see how my mind works, a little bit anyway, with the theme of this book. I had fun asking ChatGPT and DALLE questions that rolled around in my head. I wanted to see how AI is programmed; these questions reveal something about the programmers. Read each answer carefully. I’m interested in giving you a glimpse of AI. I think the answers reveal that AI is not nefarious.

Sage Advice

Making the Most of the Miracle

I began researching people considered great thinkers throughout the ages. I found that they all seemed to share a common thread of wisdom. How did they come to this knowledge? I have no proof, but I suspect they all possessed a knowing from God or the Universe itself. The “knowing” of these sages can guide us if only we can overcome our hubris, the part of our mind that thinks, “we know it all.” Or perhaps by reading about their life experiences and considering their advice, we can avoid some of the pitfalls that life presented to them. As my coach, Mike Shereck, aptly put it, “This book is a conduit of the Sages that allows each
person to apply the wisdom to their journey.”

Helping People Buy

You Will Love this Book!

Selling from the level of your Soul……is it possible? Being authentic and helping people buy … and be successful … is that possible?
I say yes because I have been successfully selling from the level of my soul for over thirty years. I wanted to be a priest from the early age of five until I met Sophie (that is another story) and thank GOD I did. If she and I did not meet I would have spent the last thirty years celibate…..that’s exactly why I did not bother to become a priest, instead my path led me into a career in sales.

Selling from the level of your Soul means that we make a connection to each prospect and, customer and we help people buy. If you have integrity and commitment to what you do and a passion for people, then you have what it takes to begin to honor your authentic self, your soul, and people around you will notice the difference.
Gratitude, self-respect, boundaries, giving what you want to get are all some of the additional components of Soulful Selling and helping people buy.
We live in a Galaxy, in a Universe, a miracle itself, and we can bring this kind of thinking, an unlimited perspective into what we do and create a life of joy, happiness, and success.
It’s a subtle shift that makes a huge difference for any professional who doesn’t like being lumped into the category of “salesperson.” You are helping people buy the best solution for them and making a life long connection whether they buy or not. They will always respect, admire and trust you as well as always recommend or refer you.
What could be better?

You May be Full of #2

After All, We Do Know Better

Introductions are full of #2, so I’ll keep it short. Who will question your answers? – Only the “Woke?”It’s great to have people around you, no matter what you do in life, that will tell you when you are full of #2. The “Woke” best friends, teachers, coaches, spouses, employees, leaders, parents, etc., tell us when we are full of #2. Direct feedback from others is not the only way to know if you are full of #2. Life itself is feedback; unless you are stuck in victim thinking, that is. If you accept responsibility for what you are creating in life, then all of life is a gift—the gift of feedback. People and events that upset you are reflecting where you are full of #2. If you are among the “woke,” then you think this doesn’t apply to you. After all, you know better. If you disagree, you need a coach to show you where you are, full of #2. Unless you are Woke, then you are coaching the rest of us.I am doing my Woke best not to offend anyone and to agree with everyone. I am using the term #2 instead of the dirty word. This edition is the “Woke” edition and intended to be a tongue-in-cheek look at the idea that any group of people has “found the way.” Think of the hubris in that and how small-minded that sounds. Anyone who tells you they found the way, run away. I say that to my clients. Think Jim Jones (for the Woke crowd, don’t google him it will offend you) or the “sneaker cult.” We all have our journey that is as different as our fingerprints. There are over seven billion people on Earth, and each one has a unique purpose. Someday, maybe, we will learn to embrace our differences and come to understand that we are here to grow through acceptance.“This idea of purity and you’re never compromised and you’re always politically woke and all that stuff, you should get over that quickly,” the 58-year-old said while speaking at the Obama Foundation Summit in Chicago. “The world is messy. There are ambiguities. People who do really good stuff have flaws.”Obama’s pointed warning that social media enables “woke” people to be “as judgmental as possible.”Thank you, President Obama. I couldn’t have said it better. Let’s get started.

You May be Full of Shit

IF

It’s great to have people around you, no matter what you do in life, that will tell you when you are full of shit. The best friend, teachers, coaches, spouses, employees, leaders, parents, etc., tell us when we are full of shit. Direct feedback from others is not the only way to know if you are full of shit. Life itself is feedback; unless you are stuck in victim thinking, that is. If you accept responsibility for what you are creating in life, then all of life is a gift—the gift of feedback. People and events that upset you are reflecting where you are full of shit. If you disagree, then you need a coach to show you where you are full of shit.

Sales Success for the Spiritual Salesperson

How to Sell Without Losing Your Soul

The best salespeople are invisible. They never look like they are selling anything, and technically they aren’t. They are instilling faith and confidence. They are quietly demonstrating why you should believe in them and, in turn, buy from them. Was Jesus a salesman? Today, 2006 years after his crucifixion, there are two billion Christians roaming the planet, and the faithful are growing,” Stevens notes. “If Jesus and the religion he fostered didn’t sell faith majestically and invisibly, two billion human souls would be adrift from what, for many, is the most important anchor in their lives.

Wake Up, Jump Into Your Life

Consciously Crete the Life You have Dreamed Of

To really advance one’s self and truly receive insight as to one’s power to create in this life…. A journey of self-observation is necessary—step one in the process….to be able to see one’s self in each and every situation—to learn and to listen to how you feel in each and every moment in your life, is the beginning to waking up….I am only just “waking up” myself and so to each one of you that take this journey with me now, I thank you. I am and will be, forever grateful to you for helping me learn and grow, for it is said that, “you teach that which you need to learn the most” … And so, we begin this marvelous path to awakening. Awakening to the magic that is each and every moment of our lives… awakening to the miracles all around us in every choice…awakening to the miracles that living in a galaxy opens to us… awakening to the messages in nature, that if one is paying attention, all that is required to have a life of fulfillment and satisfaction is here, beyond what was ever imagined…For it is all a miracle and it begins with a choice…everything in this existence is first a choice. Your choices create your reality. Recognizing and taking responsibility for what you have created with your choices is step two in the process of waking up is Recording and journaling the reactions to these choices is step three. Learn how to consciously create the life of you dream of by waking up to the fact that you have created everything in your life until now

Sales Success for the Rookie

How to Succeed at Sales Right from the Start

This book is about getting started in sales and succeeding right from the start. It’s about learning how to help prospects buy versus selling. You will not have to “push to get the sale”, which mostly pushes prospects away. You can be yourself and learn how to “say what you are feeling”. You can sell the truth. You will not have to learn any tactics. “Tactics are tacky.” Selling is about being in relationship. People buy from people they like and trust. If you sell with integrity and you sell your truth, people will like and trust you. You will attract what you require in life. Who wouldn’t recommend or buy from someone whose reputation is one of integrity, whose main interest is in serving their higher calling by working to serve those that they sell to? Who wouldn’t see the value in someone who would walk away from a sale because they see that the solution or conditions are not a good fit for either of them in the long term?Learning to sell from integrity means listening for what would best serve the customer and not our next bonus or commission. It means living true to our higher calling, listening to our soul, and doing what, “in integrity”, is the best for all concerned.In this book, you will learn how to gain the respect and admiration of your customers and prospects by letting your true and real self shine. You can be yourself in sales if you learn which behaviors to control and Prefacewhich behaviors to emphasize on a sales call and in any relationship in life. You can let go of worry over quotas, and you can stop trying to manipulate others with the “next clever thing to say”. There’s no need to sell anything if you are listening for what would solve your customer’s or prospect’s problems. If you are listening to see if they are a good fit for your company, and you are willing to let them go, either to another solution or to a competitor who is a better fit, prospects will buy. You will learn how to relax and let your customer sell himself. -You will learn how to walk him to that sale. You will learn to stop doing business with people who don’t respect you, and instead command respect and sell more. Selling should be fun and what’s more fun than being in control of your life, your destiny and yourself. After all, the only thing you can control is you and that’s what this book will focus on. As you change, things change. I often say, “If you don’t like your experience of the world, change how the world is experiencing you.” Learning how to communicate to improve your sales is one path to take. Improved communication by itself is not enough. Learning what has been holding you back is the key. I managed salespeople for many years, over 30 in fact, and I have conducted sales training courses for over 12 years. The one thing that I observed over and over was that, even salespeople that had great communication skills, “hit the wall” and fell short of their goals. The reason– they focused on things outside of themselves to fix the problem when they were the problem. The great motivational speaker and author, Jim Rohn, once said, “The harder I worked on myself, the better my business did.”In this book, you will learn how to begin the journey of working on your “self”. How to take your “self” on. That is what I teach in all of my classes. Training on better ways to sell is a positive thing. Training yourself to see your “default patterns” will add more happiness, joy, Prefacefulfillment and money than sales training alone, in the long run. Adding a “Higher Power” to your life is a necessary component as well. Remember, we do live in a galaxy, in a Universe. You can honor your higher calling through your work. You can bring your soul with you to work. In this book, you will learn how to add a “spiritual power” and an enlightened way of thinking that will provide an ease and satisfaction to your work. If practiced, you will find joy and satisfaction, while you reach your goals.

Sales Success for the Seasoned Sales Veteran

How to Gain a Strategic Edge and Close More Sales

Seasoned Sales Veterans have an experience edge that, when used properly, gives them an advantage over their competition. This book describes skills that sales veterans can set themselves apart with. They can close more sales by “helping their clients buy.” Using testimonials and referrals from existing customers and by looking at their current “book of business” as a story of their success, sales veterans can duplicate this over and over again to have more fun closing lots of new business. Without working a lot harder, sales veterans can use what the book describes as the “fulcrum and lever” effect to have more people calling them for their expertise. Steve provides understanding of the different personalities we all meet and how to connect faster with each of them. Using Everything DiSC for Sales he offer people who buy the book a discount for the assessment and tools to read people, not to sell them, to understand them and solve their pain. Steve also teaches how to detach from outcomes and become comfortable going for no.

Books by Steve Lentini